October 08, 2006

“Out from Under: Getting Clear of the Wreckage of a Sexually Disordered Home”

The title of this post is the name of an upcoming book by Dawn Stefanowicz, who grew up in a “homosexual” household during the 60s and 70s in Toronto and has seen first hand the self-destruction of her father, his partners, and herself. Her father eventually died of AIDS in 1991. Dawn has a website with resources for children, adult children, family, medical, research, and ministry. Her website is welcomed by Father John Harvey, the founding director of Courage International.
Over two decades of direct exposure to these stressful experiences caused me insecurity, depression, suicidal thoughts, dread, anxiousness, low self-esteem, sleeplessness and sexuality confusion. My conscience and innocence were seriously damaged. I witnessed that every other family member suffered severely as well.

From a young age, I was exposed to explicit sexual speech, self-indulgent lifestyles, varied GLBT subcultures and gay vacation spots. Sex looked gratuitous to me as a child. I was exposed to allinclusive manifestations of sexuality including bathhouse sex, cross-dressing, sodomy, pornography, gay nudity, lesbianism, bisexuality, minor recruitment, voyeurism and exhibitionism. Sado-masochism was alluded to and aspects demonstrated. Alcohol and drugs were often contributing factors to lower inhibitions in my father’s relationships.

My father prized unisex dressing, gender-neutral aspects and a famous cross-dressing icon when I was eight years old. I did not see the value of biological complementing differences of male and female or think about marriage. I made vows to never have children since I had not grown up in a safe, sacrificial, child-centered home environment. Due to my life experience, I ask, “Can children really perform their best academically, financially, psychologically, socially and behaviorally in experimental situations?” I can tell you that I suffered long term in this situation, and this has been professionally documented.
As Dawn and other children of same-sex parents have discovered, men who struggle with their own masculinity cannot affirm femininity and vice-versa. Those with the opinion that children raised by same-sex parents are well adjusted, have no idea what they are talking about, since they have no way of getting inside of the minds and hearts of those who were raised in way, which contradicts natural law.

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I copied this post from the blog known as "Cosmos-Liturgy-Sex".
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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Fr. Stephanos, Adults who don't think anything wrong of exposing innocent children to deviated sexual practices, need to think again. It's an "imprinting" of evil on one's soul. The hurt of being rejected as a human, and only being an object for someone else's gratification is devastating to one's psyche. I left my parents sexually deviated house at age 17 years, and am now 50 years old, the pain is still with me today. Something will trigger a thought or emotion and the original pain surfaces to the point of disabling anxiety and depression--it's a hard burden to carry.

1:03 PM  
Blogger Father Stephanos, O.S.B. said...

I have just this moment interceded for you by way of the "Our Father" and the "Hail, Mary".

1:50 PM  
Blogger Christine said...

I saw Dawn on "Life on the Rock" and it was both moving and disturbing to hear the impact that it can have on kids.

6:09 PM  
Blogger Christine said...

I saw Dawn on "Life on the Rock". It was both moving and disturbing to hear the impact that has on kids.

6:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks for the prayers, Fr. Stephanos, they are very greatly appreciated.

7:24 PM  

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